Yep Its 4am and Im up again with insomnia which is also one of the side effects of the menopause.

Such a taboo subject and one close to my heart as when my mum went through the menopause she was having symptoms that she just put down to the menopuse which wasnt and it led to terminal womb cancer. There was no internet access then to research and no way was my mum going  to the doctors with a lady problem..

So what is the menopause ?

Its The time in a woman’s life when menstrual periods permanently stop; it is also called the “change of life.” Menopause is defined as the time when there has been no menstrual periods for 12 consecutive months and no other biological or physiological cause can be identified.


Whats the symptoms of menopause ? and believe me theres loads.

1. Hot Flashe

Hot flashes are the most well-known symptoms of menopause, affecting approximately 50 percent of menopausal women. Hot flashes are a sudden sensation of feverish heat that can spread through the body, creating a flushing, or redness, particularly on the face.

2. Irregular Periods

Irregular periods can occur throughout the lifecycle for a variety of reasons. During menopause, the regular increase and decrease of estrogen and progesterone that once signaled the start and stop of the menstrual cycle becomes unbalanced. This imbalance can cause your cycle to come earlier or later than expected and may cause the flow to be abnormally heavy or light.

3. Fatigue

Fatigue is a sluggish, tired-all-the time feeling that cannot be remedied with a good night’s rest. The condition can make simple tasks of daily living difficult and impact productivity, mood and even sleep quality. Chronic fatigue can occur during menopause and drastically affect quality of life, including putting a strain on relationships, diminishing productivity at home or work and increasing stress.

4. Memory Lapses

Memory loss or foggy thinking is a common symptom of menopause. Estrogen and progesterone are both believed to play a role in memory, therefore decreasing levels may contribute to memory lapses. The condition is believed to be a temporary side effect of menopause and women will experience improvements when the transition through menopause is complete.

5. Night Sweats

Night sweats are excessive sweating associated with hot flashes that occur during the night. Night sweats can be disruptive to the sleep cycle and may even cause stress or anxiety for many women during the day. Like hot flashes, night sweats are the result of a hormonal imbalance.

6. Loss of Libido

A disinterest in sex can occur during menopause. This may happen because menopause can make sex painful due to other symptoms like vaginal dryness. Perimenopausal low libido can also occur because fluctuating hormone levels can cause sexual desire to wane. Some women may experience depression or irritability during menopause, which can also affect sexual health.

7. Vaginal Dryness

Vaginal dryness occurs when the decline of estrogen levels before and during menopause cause the natural moisture of the vagina to diminish. This effect can make natural lubrication difficult to impossible, leaving many women in pain during sexual intercourse.

8. Mood Swings

Fluctuating hormone levels during menopause can impact neurotransmitters in the brain. These neurotransmitters, like GABA and serotonin, regulate feelings of calm and the pain-pleasure centers of the brain. When hormones are out of balance, these neurotransmitters may be impaired leading to erratic mood swings, such as anger to sadness or extreme happiness to hysterical crying.

9. Panic Disorder

Panic disorder is characterized by debilitating emotional episodes that are the result of an irrational anxiety or fear. Signs of panic disorder include feelings of dread, rapid heartbeat, shallow breathing, and feelings of extreme terror.

10. Urinary Tract Infection

Low estrogen levels can induce changes in the vaginal bacteria resulting in frequent urinary tract infections.

11. Bloating

Bloating is characterized by a feelings of extreme fullness, tightness or a swelling of the belly. High levels of estrogen can cause water retention. Estrogen can rise and fall throughout the perimenopausal period.

12. Hair Loss or Thinning

Hair loss during menopause is caused by low levels of estrogen. Hair follicles require estrogen to grow and stay healthy. Hair may become drier and more brittle, and may break or fall out in the shower or while brushing.

13. Sleep Disorders

Sleep disorders, such as insomnia, sleep-disordered breathing, night sweats and anxiety can occur during menopause. These disorders may be a direct effect of menopause or a side effect of the physical and emotional stress of the transition.

14. Dizziness

Dizziness associated with menopause may come on suddenly and last only a few minutes or become extended and frequent. Women who experience frequent or extended dizzy spells during menopause are at risk of falling, which could further impair quality of life.

15. Weight Gain

Weight gain is common symptom of menopause that comes as a surprise to many women. The hormonal changes that occur with menopause not only make it difficult to lose weight, but can also diminish muscle and lean body mass. These changes can cause fat to redistribute, often collecting in the abdomen.

16. Incontinence

The reduced levels of estrogen that occur during menopause can thin the walls of the urethra causing incontinence. There are two types of incontinence that may occur. Urinary incontinence occurs when the internal muscles of the pelvic floor fail to work effectively, causing urinary leakage when laughing, sneezing, coughing or engaging in rigorous activity. This is often a result of weak pelvic floor muscles that occur with age, childbirth and surgery. Overflow incontinence is the absence of the sensation of a full bladder. Accidental urination occurs because the brain and body fail to communicate that the bladder is full.

17. Headaches

When the body begins to slow production of estrogen, many women experience more headaches. Headaches can become more intense as hormone levels continue to drop during perimenopause. As the transition completes, headaches should become less frequent.

18. Burning Tongue

Changes in estrogen levels can cause a metallic taste in the mouth during menopause. This may also be accompanied by a pain or burning sensation on the tongue, lips, gums or other spot in the mouth. Scientists are still unclear as to the root cause of the pain and burning.

19. Digestive Problems

Estrogen helps keep cortisol levels low. High levels of cortisol are known to slow digestion. As estrogen levels decline during perimenopause or menopause, cortisol levels rise, slowing digestion. This can leave many women feeling bloated or constipated and some may experience routine abdominal pain and discomfort.

20. Muscle Tension

Muscle tension during menopause is defined as tight or strained muscles in the neck, back and shoulders, or sudden increases in stiffness, aches, or soreness throughout the body.

21. Allergies

The hormonal fluctuations that occur with menopause can impact the body’s immune system. For this reason, many women will experience an increased sensitivity to allergens. Some women may experience only mild symptoms when exposed to allergens, such as rashes, itchy eyes and sneezing. Others, however, can have more extreme allergic reactions like dizziness, cramping and swelling.

22. Brittle Nails

Just as estrogen is vital for healthy hair, it is also essential to keeping the nails long and strong. Low levels of estrogen before and during menopause can cause nails to become brittle and dry.

23. Body Odor Change

Menopause has been known to cause changes in a woman’s natural scent. In most cases, this change is due to the increased production of sweat. The drop in estrogen levels sends false messages to the hypothalamus telling the body it is hot and therefore increasing sweat production to initiate cooling.

24. Itchy Skin

Collagen loss is often observed in the initial stages of perimenopause and menopause. When estrogen levels drop, collagen production slows down. Collagen gives the skin a youthful appearance. Low collagen production can lead to thin, dry, itchy skin all over the body and diminish the youthful appearance of the skin.

25. Osteoporosis

Estrogen is a key hormone for maintaining bone density. Throughout life, estrogen inhibits bone resorption. When estrogen levels drop during menopause, bone loss can accelerate rapidly. This puts postmenopausal women at risk for osteoporosis—a degenerative bone disorder, characterized by the weakening of the bone, and a general decrease in bone mass and density. Though it is impossible to rebuild bone density, women can maintain their current bone density by engaging in routine weight-bearing exercise and eating a balanced diet, rich in vitamins and minerals from plant sources.

26. Tingling Extremities

Perimenopause/menopause symptoms may also include a tingling sensation that generally affects the arms, hands, legs, and feet. This can feel like a burning or insect sting all over the skin.

27. Insomnia

Insomnia during menopause is typically a side effect of other perimenopausal and menopausal symptoms, such as hot flashes, night sweats, anxiety and panic disorders. Low levels of progesterone that occur during menopause, however, have been linked to poor sleep as well.

28. Difficulty Concentrating

An inability to focus or difficulty concentrating can affect women throughout perimenopause and menopause. This symptom is generally most noticeable in the early stages of hormonal decline. However, it can be made worse by other symptoms, such as poor sleep or mood swings. Decreasing levels of estrogen and progesterone, which both play a role in memory and focus are also contributing factors.

29. Irregular Heartbeat

Estrogen deficiency can overstimulate the nervous and circulatory systems, causing irregular heartbeat, palpitations, and arrhythmias. This symptom should be reported to a medical professional immediately.

30. Anxiety

The drop in estrogen that occurs with perimenopause and menopause negatively influences the production of neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin that play a vital role in regulating mood. This can lead to anxiety and make it difficult to relax and find calm.

31. Depression

The declining levels of progesterone and estrogen that occur during perimenopause/menopause cause a myriad of symptoms that drastically change a woman’s quality of life—generally not for the better. This can result in feelings of sadness that may evolve into depression. Progesterone and estrogen also influence neurotransmitters that regulate mood. When levels of these hormones drop, menopausal women may also find it difficult to restore happiness and calm after bouts of sadness, anxiety, and irritability, which can also contribute to depression.

32. Breast Pain

Breast pain and tenderness in one or both breasts is a side effect of the hormonal fluctuations that occur during menopause. Breast soreness generally disappears once the menstrual cycle stops completely and estrogen is no longer produced.

33. Joint Pain

Falling estrogen levels are to blame for joint pain that may occur with menopause. Estrogen is believed to help manage inflammation levels throughout the body. Women may feel an aching or tingling in the fingers, tightness in the hips, soreness in the knees or swelling of various joints, as estrogen levels decline. This can lead to arthritis. Diminishing bone density may also contribute to joint pain and soreness during menopause. Routine physical activity and stretching can help reduce joint pain and swelling. A diet rich in plant-based nutrients and low in animal products can also fight arthritis pain.

34. Electric Shock Sensation

The fluctuating estrogen levels during perimenopause and menopause can also cause an electric shock sensation in various parts of the body. This sensation is like the feeling of a rubber band snapping between your skin and muscle and often occurs as a precursor to hot flashes. These are usually brief, but quite unpleasant.

You are not doomed lol..

You can go to Doctors for a hormone replacement or my preferred route – alternative medicine.

Will give you a few examples….


Black cohosh is among the most popular and longest-studied natural hot flash remedies for women who don’t want to turn to hormone replacement or antidepressants to treat their menopause symptoms.

Black cohosh is derived from a plant in the buttercup family, and it has been used for centuries. You can take black cohosh in many forms: capsules, tablets, or mixed with water.

It’s thought to behave similarly to serotonin in the brain. This behavior includes easing feelings of depression and regulating body temperature.



Vitamin D is an essential building block for a healthy body. It promotes healthy bone renewal, normal cell growth, and hormone balance, which are all important for menopausal women.

Vitamin D is often referred to as the “sunshine vitamin,” as your body produces it in response to sun exposure.

As women age, their ability to absorb vitamin D decreases, heightening their risk of bone density loss. This makes the need to incorporate vitamin D into their diets that much more critical.



Continual evidence supports the notion that yoga can help relieve irritability and depression brought on by menopause. Women report that yoga relaxation and stretching techniques help stabilize their moods while improving their overall well-being.

Try a gentle yoga class once or twice a week to get the most benefits. Once you learn the basics, you can carve out some personal time to practice in the comfort of your own home,


There are far too many to mention, do some research and I know facebook have some fab private groups.

If after menopause is all over and you start to have a light period again seek medical advice as this is not normal and unfortunetly no one was able to give my mum this advice..

Hope this has helped in some way

Take Care






    2 replies to "The Dreaded “Time of life”"

    • Ian

      reading this page quickly I guess you have or have had a few problems.
      Being male I do not have the same issues.

      I just wanted to drop a note to say that it is good you are keeping up the blog. I have looked at so many that have three or four posts and are then abandoned

      Keep it up.

      I am under pressure with work at the moment but will be back soon

      • Sharon Hoggan

        Thankyou so much for your kind words and support ,,

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